Va: You are one of the most driven people I know.
Me: Thanks. … But I am actually disappointed that I didn’t do more when I was younger before I was married or had kids. Chalk it up to finding myself, I guess.
Va: A lot of people would disagree with you on that.
A good friend and I had that conversation this week . . . I made an offhanded, but serious, comment about being a millionaire by 30 and needing my book to hurry up and come out. I know I am harder on myself than anyone else is on me, but I have very high expectations of myself. I have a lot of goals.
This past year has been a whirlwind. It seems like just yesterday I was in Miami, enjoying the sights, tastes and sounds and taking in my first-ever professional football game in the rain (how awesome is it to have the Super Bowl be my first?!?). In the months that followed, I signed to write a cookbook, got pregnant, wrote that cookbook, my office moved, my son turned two, I learned how to save and had that baby. As far as I am concerned, 2007 went way too fast and I didn’t get a chance to stop and enjoy it enough. The holidays — St. Patrick’s Day, Memorial Day, the Fourth of July, Labor Day, Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas — all flew by in one great big blur. And summer was over before I realized.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this post and how to say what it is I want to say best. When I sit down to write it, it just doesn’t seem to come out right. So, I am going to say it in the simplest way possible and hope it makes sense to everyone else.
The New Year is more of a symbolic thing than an actual change. Still, it gives us a chance to let go of all the things that annoyed us, pissed us off and hurt us. It’s a chance to start over with a fresh, unburdened outlook on life and to be a better person. So, that is exactly what I will be doing this New Year. I am letting go of the past and forging ahead with a renewed drive to tackle my goals and live every day to its fullest. If there is anything we can learn from all the death and destruction around us, it’s that life is too short to get caught up on things that don’t matter. And it’s too short to keep yourself surrounded by people who don’t bring any value to your life . . .
So, I am starting 2008 surrounded by people who are important to me with a clear conscience and a happy heart. I hope you do the same.
Coincidentally, have I ever told you about my 100 Things list? It’s a list of things — goals really — that I want to achieve in my lifetime. Unfortunately, although I started the list a few years ago, I have only checked one off so far . . . This is the year to tick away more though. Forgive me for the poorly worded entries.
(I want to do)
- Walk down the red carpet at a movie premiere
- Be a best selling author
- Publish an adult novel
- Publish a children’s novel
- Publish non-fiction
- Write a recurring column
- Appear on the Today Show
- Be recognized
- Visit Mayan pyramids
- See Italy’s countryside
- Eat sushi in Japan
- Buy a home in Manhattan
- Live in London, England
- See Africa
- Get my PhD
- Get an MFA in Creative Writing
- Go to J-school at Columbia
- Teach a writing class
- Be a professor
- Give a commencement address
- Sit on a Board of Trustees
- Buy a bigger house
- Pay for my children’s college education
- Be a millionaire
- Invest in real estate
- Take a road trip with friends
- Have lunch with Anna Quindlin
- Have a clean house
- Learn how to keep a clean house
- Be in a movie
- Make a difference
- Be known
- Write a cookbook
- Be published in a consumer magazine
- Help others
- Move back to New York
- Have my own cooking show
- Sit on the other side of the interviewing table (as in get interviewed myself)
Be an editor– Accomplished Sept. 2006
- Have a successful freelance career
- Learn to enjoy wine
- …………………..to be continued
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